The photo above was taken from one scene of the film The Legend. Starring Will Smith, the movie tells about a city that lost its inhabitants, except for Will and his dog. It is very frightening, being alone in the wilderness of concrete buildings.
The booming of social networks like Facebook, Twitter, etc, as well as easy access to communicate is an indicator that people need friends, people are afraid to be alone.
A word of God says that it is not good for man to live alone was inspired the creation of Eve to accompany Adam. That is the origin idea of community. Ranging from the smallest one like spouse, to the larger ones like family and friends wherever we involved within; school friends, business friends, playmates or just casual acquaintances. We build relationship within any community we engage in.
But the relationship between human beings often do not last. Some end up with sadness, hurt and disappointment. Any form of relationship doesn’t immune from the threat of splitting and destruction. Selfishness of men often lead to disunity. Provocation, dishonesty, jealousy and envy, betrayal are some causes of the rift.
It would help us if we understand the background and character of a person before getting involve too close in relationship. Different style and point of view would automatically create a different definition of the meaning of a friendship. Some people would give everything for their friend, some were just looking for connections, some were looking in terms of wealth, some were just want to have fun, but I’m sure that each of us want at least one true friend.
Kahlil Gibran said, “there is no such thing as true friends, only interests.”
Truly said, that if we honestly examine the types of relationships that we have in any community, there is only one basis, which is the basis of the same interests, the same desires, the same ideals. That’s the basis which makes two people or more match to each other.
A long term nor close relationship guarantee it will be lasting in the future, because people change.
If we want to improve our quality the area of friendship, maybe there are some things to learn. I have quoted three things that we can develop, which are:
- Motivation: Sincerity in touch, is there a hidden agenda? or manipulate others in order to achieve our goals. (Romans 12:9 Let love it do not pretend).
- Image: Are we consciously give different impressions of ourselves with reality? (Matthew 23:28 Even so ye also, next to the outside you appear righteous in the eyes of men, but within ye are full of hypocrisy next and iniquity)
- Words: Speaking of discipline, which is stated is the truth. (Mat 5:37 If so be ye say yes, if it does not let you say no. Better than what comes from the evil one).
With such attitudes in mind, we at least put and offer ourselves as a good friend to those who needs us. In addition, I believe that God puts certain people as true friend to us, it could be more than one. It features those who appears when we really need a strut. Those people can be found in every episode of our life, in childhood, adolescence, adulthood, marriage, parenting etc. Try to think back and recall whoever has ever emerged as a true friend when we experience hard times and need mental support.
Remember that there is always a figure of a true friend to everyone, He is the faithful Jesus Christ. When the rest of the world does not care about us, persecute and throw us, He is the one who would sustain us and hold our tears.
Let us learn to be like him. Being a true friend to our friends, although sometimes abused, slandered, insulted and persecuted, learn to stay with true love.
“You’ll probably forget someone who laughs with you, but it is impossible to forget those who have cried with you.” – Khalil Gibran