The photo above was taken from one scene of the  film The Legend. Starring Will Smith, the movie tells about a city that lost  its inhabitants, except for Will and his dog. It is very frightening, being alone in the wilderness of concrete buildings.

The booming  of social networks like Facebook, Twitter, etc,  as well as easy access to communicate is an indicator that people need friends, people are afraid to be alone.

A word of God says that it is not good for  man to live alone was inspired the creation of  Eve to accompany  Adam. That is the origin idea of  community. Ranging from the smallest one like spouse,  to the larger ones like family and  friends wherever we involved within;  school friends, business friends, playmates or just casual acquaintances. We build relationship within any community we engage in.

But the relationship between human beings often do not last. Some end up with sadness, hurt and disappointment. Any form of relationship doesn’t immune from the threat of splitting and destruction. Selfishness of men  often lead to disunity. Provocation, dishonesty, jealousy and envy, betrayal are some causes of the rift.

It would help us   if we understand the background and character of a person before getting involve too close  in relationship.  Different  style and point of view would  automatically create a different definition of the meaning of a friendship.  Some people would give everything for their friend,  some were just looking for connections, some were  looking   in terms of wealth, some were just want to have fun, but I’m sure that each of us want at least one true friend.

Kahlil Gibran said, “there is no such thing as true friends, only interests.”

Truly said, that if we honestly examine the types of relationships that we have in any community, there is only one basis, which is the basis of the same interests, the same desires, the same ideals. That’s the basis which  makes two people or more match to each other.

A long term nor close relationship guarantee it will be lasting in the future, because people change.

If we want to improve our  quality the area of ​​friendship, maybe there are some things to learn.  I have quoted  three things that we can develop, which are:

  • Motivation: Sincerity in touch, is there a hidden agenda? or manipulate others in order to achieve our goals. (Romans 12:9 Let love it do not pretend).
  • Image: Are we consciously give different impressions of ourselves with reality? (Matthew 23:28 Even so ye also, next to the outside you appear righteous in the eyes of men, but within ye are full of hypocrisy next and iniquity)
  • Words: Speaking of discipline, which is stated is the truth. (Mat 5:37 If so be ye say yes, if it does not let you say no. Better than what comes from the evil one).

With such attitudes in mind, we at least put and offer ourselves as a good friend to those who needs us. In addition, I believe that God puts certain people as true friend to us, it could be more than one. It features those who  appears when we really need a strut. Those people can be found  in every episode of our life, in childhood, adolescence, adulthood, marriage, parenting etc. Try to think back and recall whoever  has ever emerged as a true friend when we experience hard times and need mental support.

Remember that there is always a figure of a true friend to everyone, He is the faithful Jesus Christ.  When the rest of the world does not care about us, persecute and throw us,  He is the one who would  sustain us and hold our tears.
Let us learn to be like him. Being a true friend to our friends, although sometimes abused, slandered, insulted and persecuted, learn to stay with true love.

“You’ll probably forget someone who laughs with you, but it is impossible to forget those who have cried with you.” – Khalil Gibran

Be Blessed,

a Better me, a Better life

Note: This article is translated from its origin Indonesian version “Kita Semua Butuh Teman” at  www.juelyjulie.com  posted 19th July 2011


Our life episodes content  the past, the present and the future. It is a saying that the world  is a drama stage,  each person has their roles in this life.  We can clearly see the story and the role we took from the previous moment, but we never know what is coming for us in the future. Yet, we have to wait for it and continue to take the role until finished.

Not everyone is ready to move on to  the next episode of his life. One reason among others called failure which was happened in the past. Failure often results in low self-esteem, shame, trauma and even despair.

I’m sure that no one plan for  failures in his life. However,  the wheel of life  gives us the turn to experience  different things. With  different levels and intensities  as well. When the wheels are rolling  to the bottom point, which is the point of failure, it would require an extra  effort to make it roll up back.

When our time is fall  at the bottom point, we often forget that we need to increase the thrust to  lever up. We often slumped. And if we await without doing anything  in the same position, we will never experience the blessings listed on the top of wheel. We feel bad for everything that surrounding us at that moment. Failure often invite other failures if we do not clean up the soonest possible.

On my wheel of life, I had  been at the bottom point for4 years. It obviously took me quite a long time  to  spin up. My friends were  fear, no self confidence  and trauma. It was not an easy life period. Although I know that God is with me, but intimidation whispered louder than my faith, roaring  into the ear of my heart and mind. My pace was blocked.  It made me weak to move.

Amazingly, through the weakness,  I became very dependent on Him in my hopeless time.  He did not  suddenly give super human strength to me, but He recovered me by worked through my heart. Broken heart was finally cured and revealed. Slowly but sure,  new vision are formed, new habits are formed till it was strong enough for me to rise and spin up.  Since then (in 2004), I live in victory because of my dependent on Him.


Whatever the failure was, it should not be a reason for us to become stagnant and unable to do anything about it.  Let us  not live in past failures.

In the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, Lot’s wife were mentioned that she turned into salt-pole when she was looking back. This also means when God prepare a way out for us, let us not look back to the past. If  we do, we will be “petrified”. Instead of  being stuck in sorrow and  fear, we must continue to learn to get up, motivate ourselves, lift our  head and look at one point where the  hope and future belong. We only live once, and the time will continue to run, do not be squandered. Are you ready to welcome the future?

Like when we write something on sand shore, when the water came washing the shore, the text will disappear and a new sand surfaced again. Supposedly that’s our mentality to failures in the past, leave and start new again. Forget the past … run on goal …. to a future full of hope. LET NOT CHOOSE TO BE A SALT-POLE.

Richly blessed,

a Better me,  a Better life

Note: this article is translated from its Indonesian version “Kemanakah Aku Harus Melangkah” at www.juelyjulie.com, posted 13th July 2011.